Abstract: The present embodiments describe methods and apparatuses for protecting the privacy of one or both parties involved in a two-party telephone conversation. The embodiments also use an SMS text network to provide advance, substantial, customizable information to a recipient prior to the joining of two parties in conversation. The embodiments also provide dynamic control over who responds to an incoming call based on multiple criteria. The invention uses SIP various forms of VoIP technology to determine and route calls incoming to a communications system and sends advance notification(s) to recipient(s) prior to the joining the parties for conversation.