Abstract: The methods and systems in this invention apply to messaging systems that are used by people to communicate between a plurality of mobile devices and/or computers. Methods and systems are presented for communicating with participants in a manner that allows for more open discussion and gossiping. The methods and systems permit a conversation between a plurality of users in a manner such that one or more users in the system are excluded from participating in the said conversation. The methods and systems also allow one or more users to participate in a conversation without revealing identity by choosing to be anonymous, choosing an alias, or by impersonating another user or reverting to original identity at any point during the gossip. The methods and systems presented also provide for the option for other users to know if a user is participating by impersonating or via an alias. The methods and systems also allow for any user in the system to delete any message posted by the said user in a conversation.