Abstract: The secondary amide contained in the extraction system consists of a single compound or a mixture of two or more compounds, wherein R1 is selected from a C2˜C12 alkyl, or a C3˜C12 cycloalkyl containing a single-ring structure, R2 is selected from a C1˜C11 alkyl, or a C3˜C11 cycloalkyl containing a single-ring structure; the total number of carbon atoms in the molecule is 12˜18. With a volume ratio of an organic phase and a brine phase being 1˜10:1, at a brine density of 1.25˜1.38 g/cm3 and at a temperature of 0˜50° C., a single-stage or multi-stage countercurrent extraction and a stripping are conducted to obtain a water phase with a low magnesium-lithium ratio, which is subjected to concentration, impurity removal and preparation to get lithium chloride, lithium carbonate and lithium hydroxide respectively. Water is used for stripping, greatly reducing the consumption of acid and base, and the separation process is shortened.