Abstract: A computer based system enables secure communication between children. A first child requests to form a buddy association with another child using a computer connected to a server using a network. The server provides the first child with a passcode, which the first child gives a second child, in person. The second child then completes the request on a computer connected to the server, and provides the passcode to form the association. Parents or guardians are notified that the children have formed an association, and may thereafter supervise the association.